- Hannah Kent, Burial Rites
I think this is the most important question which everyone should ask from his-self that “Are we really satisfied with our lives?” and the majority answer is No, Not! After getting the answer of your self-asked question just gives a little thought on your life which you are having. “Is it really the way how u wants it?” If it is according to your approach then it is fine but if it is not then you can change your life only if you are willing to change it otherwise time never stops for anyone it has to move so the life too has to go on. We can take the example of a child whose parents forces him to choose science subjects knowing that he is more interested in arts subjects. Now the child should convince his parents that he wants to study arts subjects because he is good at arts and he is not capable of studying science subjects. But the problem is if he does not convince and start studying those subjects which his parents has chosen for him so what will happen in the end, obviously failure or a bad marks! Afterwards he will keep complaining about his life that what a hell life he is passing or so but if he think a little bit about it he will surely get the answer all this pathetic life which he is passing is due to his fault of not convincing his parents, for not taking stand for his career. As we are not the servants of anybody. Allah Almighty has created us “Ashraf-ul-maqluqat” which means we are independent; we can make decisions of our life independently i.e. we are capable of making difference between what is right and wrong for us. I don’t say that we should start doing things without any guidance and permission from our elders. It is very obvious thing that the guidance of elders matters a lot but if they are wrong at some point we should tell them what is right by giving logical reasons. In this you will be more self-satisfied, can lead more better life and ultimately you will be a successful person.
Another very important issue which is more common in less developed country that is of marriage. When there comes a time of marriage people (specially referring to the people of rural areas) don’t bother asking their daughters about their willingness of getting married to the guy which they have selected. They don’t consider the acceptance of a girl in a marriage is important. They just think that we are elders so we have every right of making decisions of our offspring. Marriage is actually the thing which is the contract between a girl and a boy so the willingness of a girl matters a lot as it is her life she has a full right of making her life decisions as she is going to spend a whole life with that guy not his parents. So be strong and speak for yourself because no one is going to fight for your rights because it is your life !