Seeing a Woman: A conversation between a father and son

Someday I am going to have to have the conversation with my son. No, not the conversation all parents dread giving and all kids are mortified having. I enjoy making people uncomfortable so that conversation should be fun.

No, I’m talking about another conversation. The one that happens after I catch his eye doing what male eyes do well – following an object of lust. We will probably be out at the mall, because that’s what dads do with their sons, and I’ll catch the look. Maybe we’ll go to the beach and see it. Doesn’t matter where it is, there will come a time when I will see it. And then it will be time for this conversation.


Hey, come here. Let me talk to you. I saw you look at her. I’m not judging you or shaming you. I know why you did. I get it. But we have to talk about it because how you look at a woman matters.


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A Very Good Conclusion To A ‘Sunni-Shia’ Debate

So today I decided to read a 1.6K+ comments long Sunni-Shia debate on Khurram Zaki’s wall instead of reading what I just started reading today: Kiran Desai’s ‘The Inheritance of Loss’, and I don’t regret it but I do have few things to say before jotting down my conclusion on that very debate.

Few things that I was indoctrinated with in my childhood:
1) Shias killed Imam Hussein,
2) Shias have their own Quran,
3) Shias pray only two times a day,
4) Shias practice incest,
5) You can eat in one plate with a Christian but with a Shia? No way!
And other stupid stuff.

Took me years to get rid of this indoctrination. How? I was blessed enough to study in a boarding school where Sunnis, Shias, Ahmadi, all shared one common hall of prayers. And I was blessed enough not only to read ‘5’ prayers standing next to Shias but also learn about their school of thought directly from them. Believe me or not, I don’t give a duck, but yeah I’ve seen them read the same Quran and offer prayers 5 times a day. And although I didn’t get a chance to share a plate, mess manners they call it, but we did eat together for 5 odd years. Why am I telling you all this? B/c very very few are blessed enough to see the truth for themselves. The remainder keeps the hatred preserved until it is transferred down to the next generation, and in some cases this hatred is mobilised in the wrong direction by the wrong people for the wrong reasons? Result? Hazara killings, Parachinar blasts, etc (etc being stuff the we can’t recall, shame on us!)

My conclusion: Most Sunnis lack reasoning and as a consequence easily get frustrated leading to either verbal or physical abuse.

Once a lady, which I consider my wee sister although she is elder in age, asked me: “Nauman, are you a Shia?”
I never replied but now I feel like, and here’s my reply: “For me, in the words of Carl Sagan, every human is precious, because not in a billion, lets say trillion, galaxies would I find another. And Salman Rushdie is no exception. I make no exceptions!”

Nauman Umair

When you stop praying..

What happens when you stop praying?  Seriously, have you ever thought about this?clip_image002_thumb

Most of the people – even drowning in sadness, worries – don’t bother to think about this.
Think, at least once so that you may realize the consequences..

When you stop praying..

You begin to feel weaker and weaker in your faith.

May feel as though you have no control, and you may not.

Begin to find yourself in pain every time.

Feel shattered.

Re-appearance of wounds.

Faith starts fading.

Endurance starts vanishing.

You start loosing yourself. What you were, and what you were supposed to be.

And yes when you stop praying, you – more precisely – loose everything! And are left empty-handed. With no feeling of fingers attached even.

If your problems haven’t stopped, neither should our prayers. Pray when life is rough and don’t forget to pray when life gets great. Because He hears you and He is working it out for your good.


A word, in actual, is the smallest element that may be uttered in isolation with
semantic or pragmatic content.

There is something about words. In expert hands, manipulated deftly, they take you Wind themselves around your limbs like spider silk, and when you are so enthralled you cannot move, they pierce your skin, enter your blood, numb your thoughts. Inside you they work their magic. We live and breathe words. They are the books that make us feel that perhaps we are not completely alone. They could be honest with us, and we with them. Reading our words, what we wrote, how we are lonely sometimes and afraid, but always brave; the way we see the world, its colors and textures and sounds.
Words allow one to say what they really want to, to communicate, to explain. In fact words are the powerful thing if considered and if used rightly. They act as the ultimate weapons if used at the correct ticks of the clock. Along with lighting fires in the minds of men, they  can also wring tears from the hardest hearts.  Words, of course, are the most powerful drug used by mankind. They can be like X-rays. If you use them properly, they’ll go through anything.

We, on a whole, are surrounded by WORDS. But the art is to use them rightly. Because even the smallest of words can be the ones to hurt you, or save you. It depends on how you perceive others and how you perceive yourself.

Ramadan Mubarak

Ramadan al Mubarak Ramazan Kareem

اے لوگو جو ایمان لائے ہو، تم پر روزے فرض کر دیے گئے، جس طرح تم سے پہلے انبیا کے پیروؤں پر فرض کیے” گئے تھے اس سے توقع ہے کہ تم میں تقویٰ کی صفت پیدا ہوگی.”


Team Spiced Up Wishes you and your family a happy prosperous Ramazan.

Infinitron – The Creative element Inside You


Revolution Flame, a fast growing global youth platform whose main ideology is to spread Love Revolution is back this summer with new stuff. Last summer it was ‘I Volunteered’ before that it was ‘Project 365’ but this time it’s bigger and better ! This time it’s Infinitron! Exactly … The creative Element in you.

It is basically a magazine and it’s debut edition would be out this June. They invite everyone to share their creativity with them. Major section include

1-       Featured Articles on Social Welfare/Non Profit organizations and things they are doing

2-       Event Reports/ Reviews

3-       Poets Corner

4-       I volunteered (Volunteer Stories which includes the infinitron members and other organizations members stories about how they volunteered and did something worth spreading love in humanity)

5-       A Flame once said (Quotes/One liners)

6-       Photography Reviews and Tips and Special Articles.

7-       Public Awareness Messages, Essays and Research Works.

8-       Featured Interviews (Includes various genres) Diversified Category

9-       Current Issues Insight (Non Political)

10-   Editorials

11-   Do it yourself Articles

12-   Doodles/Sketchographs

13-   “Careers” Section to include opportunities, tips and suggestions for professional grooming.

If you have that creative element in you or you are working for the betterment of the society in any way and you want your voice to be heard and this world to be a peaceful place then get in contact with them and be a part of their Love Revolution!

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The Eye sees what we wish to See

The Eye - Winner Eme Green Campaign - Artist Amara Aziz

When we are trying to understand something, we sometimes rely on our senses and use reason to seek for the truth. We also use intuition to discover unknown things. As environment and culture may affect people’s way of thinking, people from different backgrounds may interpret things differently. People from the same background can even have different personal experiences, which also affect people’s understanding of the surroundings. No two people have exactly the same idea and we try to understand things based on our own ideas. The “things” we are referring to can be objects, scenes, characters or in other forms. Whatever the things are, they will be meaningless without being given any definitions. When we call an object “dehumidifier”, we unconsciously give it the definition of an equipment that absorbs moisture from the atmosphere and makes the air dry. In fact, “dehumidifier” is just a box with calcium chloride granules in it. People regard it as a useful tool in daily life without noticing its components. In this case, we normally do not understand things by their realities, but by the functions as we know them.

“The eye sees only what the mind is prepared to comprehend.”   Henri Bergson’s statement shows that what we see and understand is based on what we are ready to take in. We are ready to take in something because we can make hypotheses from our previous knowledge. That is our empirical knowledge which is obtained through our five senses. We are able to know the external world around us through these senses. For example, we wear more clothes when the weather gets colder because we feel the coldness if we were wearing fewer clothes. Obviously, senses generate experiences and when we are facing something new, we usually try to learn from our past knowledge so as to acquire new knowledge. However, such a way of knowing things makes people fail to understand new information without learning from past experiences.

It is easy to see how the five basic senses work according to natural laws; they can be poked and prodded by machines, tested in labs, scored, rated, and all the other scientific verifications that let us know they truly exist. But when it comes to the senses that are beyond the norm, science throws up its hands and says they can’t be proven, so obviously they don’t exist. Well, they do.

There are the “clairs”—clairvoyance, the ability to see with the “inner eye”; clairsentience, that feeling in the gut that “knows”; and clairaudience, like hearing your name called when there’s no one around. Throughout the ages and in every different culture, there have always been those who could access their expanded senses.

Here are 4 ways you can expand your horizons and go beyond what the eye sees:

  1. Trust your intuition. You’re already receiving more information than you’re aware of.  When you meet someone who feels “off” to you in some way, don’t start dating that person. When you look at your child at breakfast and you get a really bad feeling in your gut about the school bus, drive your kid to school that day. Maybe nothing will go wrong, but then again, maybe that guy will turn out to by physically abusive, maybe the school bully will punch out the kid sitting where you child usually sits on the bus.
  2. Let your awareness expand in nature. Find a place outside where you feel safe and allow your awareness to widen as you gaze at the sky or mountains or body of water or the green of trees and fields. Sink into a “reverie,” letting your thoughts float away like leaves in a stream. Realize how far beyond the confines of your body your consciousness can travel.
  3.  When you first come into someone’s presence, ask yourself what information you are receiving from that person. Do they feel happy or sad? Relaxed or stressed? Healthy or not? When you start bringing more awareness to that person’s energy field, you might start picking up events that happened to him or her, such as a quick flash of a recent divorce, or the way he or she felt when a parent died, or even a past life.
  4. Don’t automatically discount the information you receive in these extra-ordinary ways. Instead of reacting with “That’s impossible . . .,” try for “hmm, I wonder if what I feel is true?” Allow for the expansion of your senses without putting up roadblocks.

When you develop your intuitive gifts and open more fully to the information you’re receiving, your life will work better. You’ll “know” how to get healthier, which friends are really friends and which ones you should probably drop, what your child needs, if that guy or job or house is right for you.

The Eye - Winner Eme Green Campaign - Artist Amara Aziz

The Eye – Winner Eme Green Campaign – Artist Amara Aziz

Article Motivation : The Eye
Picture Credit : Amara Aziz – Author Spice It Up

FAITH – link between GOD and man

Professor: do you believe in GOD ?

Student : Absolutely, sir.

Professor : Is GOD good ?

Student : Sure.

Professor: Is GOD all powerful ?

Student : Yes.

Professor: My brother died of cancer even though he prayed to GOD to heal him. Most of us would attempt to help others who are ill. But GOD didn’t. How is this GOD good then? Hmm?

(Student was silent.)

Professor: You can’t answer, can you ? Let’s start again, young fella. Is GOD good?

Student : Yes.

Professor: Is satan good ?

Student : No.

Professor: Where does satan come from ?

Student : From … GOD …

Professor: That’s right. Tell me son, is there evil in this world?

Student : Yes.

Professor: Evil is everywhere, isn’t it ? And GOD did make everything. Correct?

Student : Yes.

Professor: So who created evil ?

(Student did not answer.)

Professor: Is there sickness? Immorality? Hatred? Ugliness? All these terrible things exist in the world, don’t they?

Student : Yes, sir.

Professor: So, who created them ?

(Student had no answer.)

Professor: Science says you have 5 Senses you use to identify and observe the world around you. Tell me, son, have you ever seen GOD?

Student : No, sir.

Professor: Tell us if you have ever heard your GOD?

Student : No , sir.

Professor: Have you ever felt your GOD, tasted your GOD, smelt your GOD? Have you ever had any sensory perception of GOD for that matter?

Student : No, sir. I’m afraid I haven’t.

Professor: Yet you still believe in Him?

Student : Yes.

Professor : According to Empirical, Testable, Demonstrable Protocol, Science says your GOD doesn’t exist. What do you say to that, son?

Student : Nothing. I only have my faith.

Professor: Yes, faith. And that is the problem Science has.

Student : Professor, is there such a thing as heat?

Professor: Yes.

Student : And is there such a thing as cold?

Professor: Yes.

Student : No, sir. There isn’t.

(The lecture theater became very quiet with this turn of events.)

Student : Sir, you can have lots of heat, even more heat, superheat, mega heat, white heat, a little heat or no heat. But we don’t have anything called cold. We can hit 458 degrees below zero which is no heat, but we can’t go any further after that. There is no such thing as cold. Cold is only a word we use to describe the absence of heat. We cannot measure cold. Heat is energy. Cold is not the opposite of heat, sir, just the absence of it.

(There was pin-drop silence in the lecture theater.)

Student : What about darkness, Professor? Is there such a thing as darkness?

Professor: Yes. What is night if there isn’t darkness?

Student : You’re wrong again, sir. Darkness is the absence of something. You can have low light, normal light, bright light, flashing light. But if you have no light constantly, you have nothing and its called darkness, isn’t it? In reality, darkness isn’t. If it is, well you would be able to make darkness darker, wouldn’t you?

Professor: So what is the point you are making, young man ?

Student : Sir, my point is your philosophical premise is flawed.

Professor: Flawed ? Can you explain how?

Student : Sir, you are working on the premise of duality. You argue there is life and then there is death, a good GOD and a bad GOD. You are viewing the concept of GOD as something finite, something we can measure. Sir, Science can’t even explain a thought. It uses electricity and magnetism, but has never seen, much less fully understood either one. To view death as the opposite of life is to be ignorant of the fact that death cannot exist as a substantive thing.

Death is not the opposite of life: just the absence of it. Now tell me, Professor, do you teach your students that they evolved from a monkey?

Professor: If you are referring to the natural evolutionary process, yes, of course, I do.

Student : Have you ever observed evolution with your own eyes, sir?

(The Professor shook his head with a smile, beginning to realize where the argument was going.)

Student : Since no one has ever observed the process of evolution at work and cannot even prove that this process is an on-going endeavor. Are you not teaching your opinion, sir? Are you not a scientist but a preacher?

(The class was in uproar.)

Student : Is there anyone in the class who has ever seen the Professor’s brain?

(The class broke out into laughter. )

Student : Is there anyone here who has ever heard the Professor’s brain, felt it, touched or smelt it? No one appears to have done so. So, according to the established Rules of Empirical, Stable, Demonstrable Protocol, Science says that you have no brain, sir. With all due respect, sir, how do we then trust your lectures, sir?

(The room was silent. The Professor stared at the student, his face unfathomable.)

Professor: I guess you’ll have to take them on faith, son.

Student : That is it sir … Exactly ! The link between man & GOD is FAITH. That is all that keeps things alive and moving.

P.S. I believe you have enjoyed the conversation. And if so, you’ll probably want your friends / colleagues to enjoy the same, won’t you?

Forward this to increase their knowledge … or FAITH.

By the way, that student was EINSTEIN.

20 sec read : The Stone

A wise woman who was traveling in the mountains found a precious stone in a stream.

The Stone -spicedupcrapThe next day she met another traveler who was hungry, and the wise woman opened her bag to share her food.
The hungry traveler saw the precious stone and asked the woman to give it to him.
She did so without hesitation.

The traveler left, rejoicing in his good fortune. He knew the stone was worth enough to give him security for a lifetime.

But, a few days later, he came back to return the stone to the wise woman.
“I’ve been thinking,” he said. “I know how valuable this stone is, but I give it back in the hope that you can give me something even more precious.

“Teach me what you have within you that enabled you to give me this stone.”