Had to hear Aaaa-lot after “10 sign’s She’s cheating on You” – Don’t tell me you didn’t read it.
After being called an anti-feminist, I had to take measures; So here It is for all you gorgeous out there 😉 Kudos.
IS HE A CHEATER?
As I’ve said earlier there is no such thing as a “perfect relationship”.Studies reveal that 50 to 60 % of men engage in affairs, hanky-panky, illicit meetings 😉 at one time or another during their relations.
Be the “Nancy Drew” in your relationship if you suspect your man of cheating.Had sneaking suspicions? Daunting Doubts? If you’ve watched any “Maury” at all, you’ve seen enough stories to know that the woman asking for a lie detector test already has more than enough information to suspect her guy of cheating/leading a double life/dressing as a clown.
Do you have to go to the extreme of hooking up your ‘honey bunny’ to a machine? Heck no! If you are a smart, capable and intelligent woman/girl, you already have all the tools you need to sniff out the truth.
All you have to do is open your eyes to the following signs:
He has ‘Cheated’ Before :
I always say: “Once a cheater, always a cheater.” If he’s done it before, he’s definitely capable of doing it again. It has nothing to do with you, which is why you can’t say that he cheated on his previous lover because she didn’t keep him happy. Cheating is a self-serving act in which the cheater doesn’t take his significant other into consideration. If someone is upfront with you that he’s made mistakes in the past, maybe give them a chance — but make it a long probationary period before you let your guard down.
The hunted becomes the ‘Hunter’ :
This is a classic technique that: deflect guilt by accusing someone else. Some of the higher level of the man animal employs this technique. Why defend yourself if you can make someone else feel guilty? The trick is to not deviate from what the original discussion/argument/Battle-Royal was all about. He will employ all the tricks at his disposal to deflect you. Remaining focused is the key; no matter what he tries.
Black becomes White :
A sure sign of a problem is when your man was a talker and then turns into a deaf-mute (or vice-versa). This is one of the very important signs to look for. Only the truly insane can carry on a double life. Normal people (even cheating men); find it difficult to lie on demand. So, instead of telling you about his day (like he used to do), he clams up for fear of revealing too much. The guy who never said anything suddenly starts giving up all sorts of information to “screen” his other activities. Beware any sudden or inexplicable shift in your man’s personality.
He’s an Excellent Liar :
If you catch him in a lie, your trust will naturally be damaged. Don’t hold a grudge — forgiveness is a good thing. “You can forgive, but don’t forget”. If he consistently breaches your trust, it’s establishing a pattern of behavior that leads to cheating. Do yourself a favor: If he keeps lying, whether these lies are big or small, get out while you can and don’t let him talk his way back in.
Your future looks Hazy :
He used to talk about future plans with you. He suddenly stops. Why? It’s because he doesn’t see you as part of HIS future. If you can’t answer, “where do you see us in 6 months?” it’s because he doesn’t see the “us” in six months.
They call me Mr. Clean!
Guys are creatures of habit. Ladies, you don’t have to see the lipstick, or smell the perfume. Guys don’t like to change the soap that they normally use; they don’t like to use a different deodorant than the one they have been using since they first got chest hair. Guys don’t like to use to cologne if they didn’t before. So, if your guy changes his grooming routine, it’s because he’s trying to throw off the scent of any possible pursuit. No wonder men are referred as “dogs–unfaithful ones” !!
He’s Pulling Houdini’s :
If he’s disappearing, traveling, or unavailable to the point where you are starting to wonder, then he could be cheating. When ever you need him he vanishes from the face of the earth like literally. It’s time you activate your detective side because it’s tough to synch up schedules, especially in secret. 😉
He is being less Passionate and Affectionate :
Even though relationships ebb and flow naturally, if you’re sensing that he’s drawing away from you, then there may be someone else. Emotional disconnect should be investigated regardless of whether it’s caused by cheating. There’s a problem if he’s not laughing or seeming as passionate as usual. It’s hard to spread love/passion between two people, so the person who used to have it will feel it slipping away if it’s being given to someone else.
His cell phone habits have changed :
In a perfect world, we’d be open about sharing our correspondence with our significant others. Most of the time, we trust that we don’t have to worry about who is texting or calling them. But, if you notice that he is getting protective and/or nervous when he gets calls or texts, it may be cause for alarm. Suddenly gets a new phone with a password lock. Or perhaps now he keeps his cell phone in his pocket when in the past he would leave it on the counter. Beware.
Decrease in Making-Love :
Unless he’s Superman, he can only makes so much love. So, if he’s getting it from another source, you might notice. It’s another woman — even if he’s not cheating — a decrease in making love signals serious issues in the relationship.
If you’re reading this, it may already be too late…
The best judge of if your man is cheating is ‘YOU’. You can look for signs, but there are some men that are very clever. Like a ninja, they leave no trace. You have to trust your judgment when dealing with anyone, even someone you care about. A relationship between two adults should be based on trust. If you can’t trust your man, the relationship is dead; it just hasn’t been buried yet. If you are looking for signs, it’s because you already know but want some confirmation.
*Unless, of course, you’re the crazy, jealous girlfriend type and no matter what, you think your man is cheating on you. In that case, you need therapy sweet heart.*
Disclaimer : Apply On Your “OWN RISK”
When you get suspicious that your significant other is cheating, be careful not to appear to be paranoid. You have to walk a fine line — you don’t want to make false accusations.
So, while I shared this list of cheating red flags, I concede that it’s a tricky situation. It’s hard to be sure if someone’s cheating, but protect yourself: Be vigilant, and pay attention to your mind and spirit within the relationship. But, at the same time, be careful not to let anxiety lead the way because unnecessary paranoia will just drive your lover away.
If you invade his privacy, this may ruin the relationship, especially if it turns out he wasn’t cheating because it’ll prove to him that you don’t trust him at all.
And if it’s confirmed he is cheating on you – then stay tuned because coming up next is : “How to Get Over a Cheating Boyfriend” . I know I can be cruel at times 😉
Give out your comments, any point you think I missed, all the hate speech to be directed only to -> me. In the comment section below 😉