- Hannah Kent, Burial Rites
1. Do you feel irritated when someone points out your mistake, and feel satisfied when you point out others’ mistakes?
2. Do you regularly give money to beggars but refuse to buy stuff from those selling at traffic signals citing the reason that you don’t need it?
4. Do you feel really proud when you make a wild guess and it turns out to be correct and also really glad when someone else’s wild guess proves to be wrong?
5. Do you almost never succeed in getting up at 5 a.m. for prayers and almost always succeed in getting up at 4 a.m. when you have to catch a flight or even watch something on TV?
6. Would you rather be wrong with everyone else than be right alone and face criticism?
7. Do you give more importance to praise from your boss than a smile from your mother?
8. Do you enjoy reading about human faults and weaknesses more when you feel that you don’t suffer from those weaknesses yourself but others do?
9. Do you hate your boss and think he is a chawal(fool) when he treats you badly but feel justified when you treat your subordinates / servants badly because they are chawals(fools).
10. Do you feel that you know much more than your elders because you are the modern youth and also feel that you know much more than those younger than you, because you are older?
Extract taken from : http://www.sarmadtariq.com/2012/12/05/i-kyun-test/
Everyone says that “Trust in a relationship is very important”. Yes it is! But trusting yourself is more important. The era in which we are living is very technological and advanced era where people have a lot of opportunities to prove themselves but still they are not able to do something different, unique and productive and the main reason behind this is that they don’t have trust and confident on themselves that whatever thing they will do it will be right. So, there is a strong need to build confidence in ourselves. We all are always having some fear inside ourselves which usually prevents us to do something which is useful in real sense. So, we should try our best to get rid of this fear as soon as possible if we want progress. There are a lot more people who want to do something great but then they get trapped into such kind of thoughts “What people will say?”, “May be my friends don’t like this”, or maybe “I am not able to do it” etc. etc. We should understand this if we will do good some people will surely appreciate you and encourage you and on the other hand some will criticize you as we know this fact that every picture has both the sides that is darker and brighter one. Now, it totally depends on you that which complement and comment you are going to take it seriously and always remember people are always their to talk about everything. They are always free to make judgments and assumptions.
So, I just want to say that be confident what you are because every person is unique in himself. You are perfect what you are now. Be proud of yourself. Allah has created everyone different. Focus on your own abilities, capabilities and specialties rather than comparing yourself with others because comparison gives you nothing. And always try to find yourself what you meant to be and what you are born to be!
How do you define yourself ? As a friend, son, father, colleague, husband, teacher, student, lawyer, accountant, or any one of a myriad different titles? Or do you define yourself by others’ perception of you? Do any of these come close to your own knowledge, your own personal experience of who you really are?
In your quiet moments, in times of inexplicable joy, have you had the overwhelming and yet clear and lucid feeling of total invinciblity – a feeling that nothing can hold you down, that you CAN accomplish ANYTHING and EVERYTHING if you put your mind to it? Well, that feeling is not a random one.
What is it that gets in the way of your exquisite power? Consider for a moment an iron bar that has magnetic power inherently in it. It will attract or repel things based on it’s own intrinsic magnetism. Over time, if this bar begins to rust, it’s power will begin to diminish. The oxidative damage from the environment that the magnet has not been able to resist, will render it ineffective, eventually. This in no way means that the iron bar is not capable of it’s latent, original power. All it needs to do is shed it’s rust. Or, consider if you will, a light bulb that is lit, but covered with soot. As long as the soot remains, it will be unable to fulfill the very purpose it was meant to serve – to radiate light.
According to ancient Vedic texts, this is in effect what happens to the human experience. The infinite power that is naturally present in each and every one of us by virtue of our own consciousness, can be rendered ineffective if not tended to properly. The stress of our lifestyle, the pollution of our environment, and the collective stress of our world keeps us from functioning at our full potential.
But there are remedies: incorporate modalities in your lifestyle that effectively combat stress and help keep you centered. Some of these options are:
Be aware of what you eat, and what you use – both on yourself, and in your environment. Choose natural, organic products.
Live a life of kindness, compassion, and charity – it keeps you connected to your center, your source, that infinite reservoir within you that is your powerhouse.
Don’t judge people, or situations – approach each moment with the knowledge that it contains within it the potential of any number of possibilities.
To connect with your real nature that is unbounded and invincible, practice yoga and meditation.
Once you are in touch with your true nature, then nothing is beyond your means – you are truly empowered. And THAT is an accurate definition of YOU!