Wanting to be someone else is a waste of who you are


I stood in the middle, watching as the winds of change tore through my life,as it all came to me and feeling the wind rush through my hair I realized life is too short to spend it following someone else s footsteps. Since childhood I was conditioned to act in certain ways to be accepted . i was forced to copy someone I was not. This was the beginning of my loss of authenticity.

We all need to recondition our beliefs by discovering what is really true for us . There is nothing wrong with adapting practices of someone you idealize but the should be inculcated in a way that enhances “Your” allure.

36816413 minutes , 840 months , 70 years . The average life expectancy. One of these days we’r going to be incapable of making a difference that is when we’ll regret trying to be someone we were not .

We always question will we be accepted for what we are ? we are afraid to fail , afraid to be recognized , overcome by the fear of not being able to achieve great things.

Even if not everyone has realized it , you make a positive difference in the world. You want yourself to be recognized , stop trying to be someone else and that is how winners are made.

I am who I am and God has blessed me the way I am. Accepting this gives you the confidence to take on the world and dare to dream and dream big, and to achieve those dreams. Dare to push yourself beyond the limits, discover what you are capable of and make it happen, don’t waste your life being someone you are not.

“To be beautiful means to be your authentic self “

Three kinds of things one can say..


“It’s hot!” I said and instantly knew that I had made a mistake.

Shuntoo didn’t respond, not even a change of expression. But I knew he had heard me. It was just that, for Shuntoo such a statement was probably stupid; stating the obvious and what-not. After a while, I just couldn’t resist.

“What’s so silly about saying it’s hot?”

Shuntoo looked up from the book he was staring at, and slightly smiled. “I didn’t say there was anything stupid about it.”

“I know but that’s what you were thinking.” I insisted.

“O bacchay!” he laughed now annoying me further. “I guess you realized it yourself that it was a useless thing to say, you don’t have to blame it on me. It’s good that you realized it yourself. Self-awareness is the sign of a working mind.”

“Yes yes whatever,” I said. “But what is so stupid about it?”

“I never said it was stupid. It was useless.”

“How?”

Finally he closed the book with a finger inside it on the page he was looking at and said “To me, there are only three kinds of things one can say. Those that raise questions, those that answer questions, and those that are useless.”

“But….”

“No need to pressure your mind so much bacchay, all of us spend our whole lives saying useless things, no need to worry, it’s just what an average human does.”

“But….” I started but he was back at his book again and I thought best to stop.

Why Humans Like to Cry


Michael Trimble

Michael Trimble
Image: Courtesy of Michael Trimble

Michael Trimble, a British professor at the Institute of Neurology in London, begins his new book with Gana the gorilla. In the summer of 2009, 11-year-old Gana gave birth to a boy at a Muenster zoo. But one day in August, the baby suddenly and mysteriously died. Gana held up her son in front of her, staring at his limp body. She held him close, stroking him. To onlookers it appeared that Gana was trying to reawaken him, and, as the hours passed, that she was mourning his passing. Some at the zoo that day cried. But Gana did not. Humans, Trimble tells us, are the only creatures who cry for emotional reasons. “Why Humans Like to Cry” is an exploration of why this would be so, a neuroanatomical “where do tears come from.” It’s also a meditation on human psychology. Many distinctions have been offered between humans and the rest of the animal world, and to this list Trimble adds another: the anguished tear, the apprehension that life is tragic. Trimble answered questions from Mind Matters editor Gareth Cook.

Cook: How did you first become interested in crying?
Trimble: Of course, because I cry, and some things bring tears quite easily, notably music, and opera with the power of the human voice.
Crying tears, for emotional reasons, is unique to humans. There has been a game of catch me if you can, which has been played by those interested in finding attributes or behaviours which separate humans from our nearest living relatives – namely the chimpanzees and bonobos. Certainly our propositional language is very special, but primate communities have very sophisticated ways of communicating. Other contenders, such as play, using tools, or having what is called theory of mind (the sense that I know that others have a mind very like mine, with similar inclinations and intentions) have all been argued as unique to our species, but all these have been demonstrated, in some form, to be found in other primates. Emotional crying makes us human.

Cook: What is known about crying in the animal world?
Trimble: Tears are necessary to keep the eyeball moist, and contain proteins and other substances which maintain the eye healthy and to combat infection. Tearing occurs in many animals in response to irritants which get in the eye, and in some settings tears fall for simple anatomical facts. When an elephant is standing, tears run down the trunk, but when lying down, the flow is impeded and tears may be seen coming from the eyes. It may be that animals that are abused shed tears, from pain, although observations of this are rare.

Cook: How is crying different in humans?
Trimble: Humans cry for many reasons, but crying for emotional reasons and crying in response to aesthetic experiences are unique to us. The former is most associated with loss and bereavement, and the art forms that are most associated with tears are music, literature and poetry. There are very few people who cry looking at paintings, sculptures or lovely buildings. But we also have tears of joy the associated feelings of which last a shorter time than crying in the other circumstances.

Cook: What do you find most interesting about the neuroscience of crying?
Trimble: If it is the case that only humans cry emotionally, then there must have been a time in human evolution when tears took on an additional meaning to their hitherto biological functions , namely as a signal of distress, and a cipher for suffering. In my book I discuss at when in the past our ancestors may come to possess this trait. I suggest that this is connected with the dawning of self-consciousness, with the development of theory of mind, and the realisation that the self and others can disappear. Attachment emotionally to others, with the development of sophisticated facial gestures associated with suffering, and with loss and bereavement ensued. All this before the development of our elegant propositional language. The emotional responses became largely unconscious and innate, and identification of tears as a signal for such distress was an important addition the so called Social brain, the circuitry of which can now be identified in the human brain.
I also discuss the differences between the neuroanatomy of the human brain and that of chimpanzees and other closely related primates, which may explain our ability to respond emotionally with tears to the arts. The brain areas involved are widespread, but link our cerebral cortex especially anteriorly with those areas associated with the representation of emotion – so called limbic structures and our autonomic system. The latter co-ordinates heart rate, breathing, and vocal output, all of which collaborate in the expression of emotion with tears.

Cook: You mention “theory of mind” and crying. Can you tell me more about the connection between the two?
Trimble: Theory of mind refers to an area of social cognition which has developed hugely in humans, although similar abilities in much more limited forms have been shown in chimpanzees. The ability to feel compassion, the embodiment of which relates to our capacity for empathy, is triggered by what the neurologist Antonio Damasio refers to as emotionally competent stimuli. The responses are automatic, unconscious and bound in with our personal memories. Seeing facial expressions of sadness trigger the neuronal circuits related to theory of mind and empathy, which to some extent overlap, and involve, in part, those brain areas that give us our visceral, emotional feelings noted above. The tear, as part of the expression of suffering, became an emblem embroidering the expression. The tear, mythological linked with purity with a pearl shape has provided an image which, over time, has come by itself to symbolise sadness, grief, but also joy in music, poetry and the visual arts.

Cook: What lesson do you think this holds for us?
Trimble: Tears are a natural response to not only suffering, but also to feeling compassion for someone who is shedding tears. There has been much reluctance, especially on behalf of men, to admit to crying, and to crying in public. Yet Greek heroes such as Agamemnon and Achilles cried, and 2012 has seen many public tears, from the winners and losers in the Olympic games, to President Obama who cried after his re-election victory. We should not be afraid of our emotions, especially those related to compassion, since our ability to feel empathy and with that to cry tears, is the foundation of a morality and culture which is exclusively human.

Reblogged.
Source: http://www.scientificamerican.com/article.cfm?id=why-humans-like-to-cry

10 Things it’s time for Pakistanis to realize


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Ramish Safa Mobin

I was born, raised and spoilt in Pakistan. It was fun. It gave me cricket, it brought me Polka and just when I thought all was well, it gave me World Cup, 1999. Even better were, and have always been, the people that populate this wonderful piece of land. Loving, caring, mysteriously dying, people with their hearts full of fire and their eyes full of dust. To cut it short, I’ve loved this country and have expressed that at multiple occasions This, however, shall not be one of them. Pakistani awam has had its share of crazies and that doesn’t seem to be ending anytime soon. Most of these behavioral fruit loops are annoying, overdone and worth punching people in the face for.

Following is a list of things I think the Pakistan awam SHOULD realize before it gets nuked in the gut for good.

  1. There is a maila in…

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Dianne Cogar and Her Poetry


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Diane wrote another prayer that I found so emotional. I feel she has so much talent. I can’t help but share her works with you. I believe she read my post about Prayer From My Heart. I didn’t ask, I am just thinking so.

Here is the poem she wrote after I posted mine.

Wish I Could Help You Though…

Wish I could help you through this sorrow
And calm your fears through each new morrow
And show you life beyond this pain
To ease your worries, to keep you sane

When loved ones leave they never go
Their memories stay and ever grow
But what we miss are tender things
Like a long warm hug and what love brings

I’d tell you life will be alright
To comfort you through each long night
But deep down in my concerned heart
There’s nothing sure that I can part

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10 Amazing Technologies Which Are Coming Soon to Your Computer and Mobile Devices


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You won’t believe how much technology is going to change in the next few years. I’m not talking about incremental changes like faster processors or better screens. I’m talking about major new changes in the way you interact with your computer and mobile devices.

1. Perceptual Computing

Right now the only way to interact with most personal computers is using a keyboard and mouse. In the future, your computer will respond to sight, sound, smell, touch, temperature and more.

Sight – Your next computer or mobile device will automatically unlock its screen after recognizing your face. But that’s just the beginning, it will have a front-facing 3D camera that can recognize gestures and track all ten of your fingers. This will allow you to interact with things on the screen without needing a mouse. Imagine using your fingers to open a virtual door in a video game. This, and much…

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World Through My Eye : 12

Palestinian protesters burn tyres as cla...Palestinian protesters burn tyres as clashes broke out with Israeli security forces during a demonstration against the expropriation of Palestinian land by Israel in the village of Kfar Qaddum, near the occupied West Bank city of Nablus, on June 16, 2013. Earlier in the week the United States sharply criticized Israel's plans to move ahead with 1,000 new settlers homes on the West Bank, saying it was unhelpful to US efforts to kickstart peace talks.

Palestinian protesters burn tyres as cla...Palestinian protesters burn tyres as clashes broke out with Israeli security forces during a demonstration against the expropriation of Palestinian land by Israel in the village of Kfar Qaddum, near the occupied West Bank city of Nablus, on June 16, 2013. Earlier in the week the United States sharply criticized Israel's plans to move ahead with 1,000 new settlers homes on the West Bank, saying it was unhelpful to US efforts to kickstart peace talks.

Palestinian protesters burn tyres as clashes broke out with Israeli security forces during a demonstration against the expropriation of Palestinian land by Israel in the village of Kfar Qaddum, near the occupied West Bank city of Nablus, on June 14, 2013.

Earlier in the week the United States sharply criticized Israel’s plans to move ahead with 1,000 new settlers homes on the West Bank, saying it was unhelpful to US efforts to kickstart peace talks.

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