It’s both a burden and a blessing to feel everything as deeply as I do.


– Anonymous

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IT’S DECEMBER AGAIN


The wind blowing through my hair
The frost on the ground
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The chilled rushing sound

The love for caffeine
The fireplace heat
The foggy side window
The cold surface of my feet

The freezing hands
A blanket of feathers
Embraces the heat,
Blocks off the cold weather

The dark  silent nightswinter-night
The falling snow
Sadness all around
Peace everywhere

The slashing pain
Of these hopeless days
The tranquille streets
The fading lights

December is love.
December is peace.
December is to stay;
all way long.

December


The wind blowing through my hair
The frost on the ground
The cold frigid airtumblr_lvh7hh0QG91qktfhro1_500
The chilled rushing sound

The love for caffeine
The fireplace heat
The foggy side window
The cold surface of my feet

The freezing hands
A blanket of feathers
Embraces the heat,
Blocks off the cold weather

The dark  silent nightswinter-night
The falling snow
Sadness all around
Peace everywhere

The slashing pain
Of these hopeless days
The tranquille streets
The fading lights

December is love.
December is peace.
December is to stay;
all way long.

What If


English: Whale shark at the Osaka Aquarium mai...

English: Whale shark at the Osaka Aquarium main tank exhibit (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

What if you could fly? If you could touch the skies. Burst through the clouds feeling the wind on your face. The wind stealing a tear from your eyes, slowly creeping through the side of your face to your ear.See the world below you, see the people looking like little ants, and point out your own house and the place you hang out with your friends. If you could feel a bug splat on your face, If you could race the birds to the next patch of clouds. If you could feel your weight disappear into the vast blue sky. If you could see as far as the sky stretched. If you could wave your hand to a kid sitting at the window seat of a plane, if you could look over the clouds, the same clouds which looked over you all your life. What if you could fly ?
What if you could catch fire? If you could stick your hand in the bon fire and grab a red hot amber. Roll it around in your hand and hold it close to you. If you could see the amber really closely and watch it turn to ash slowly in you hands. If you could catch the flame of a candle in your hand and take it to the next room, if you could walk through a raging fire in a building and rescue a damsel in distress (if you are a boy) or a sweet little cat (if you are a girl) . if you could grab the flame of a stove, take it to your nose and balance the whole flame on your nose and show it off to your buddies. What If you could catch fire?
What if you could talk to fish ? If you could call on your buddy the whale shark, if you could go for a swim with miss dolphin, if you could be in an argument with a whale , if you could ask the shark “why so serious?”, or ask the sea horse if you can have a ride on him, if you could talk business with a goldfish, or laugh out on a joke from the white dolphin, if you could text miss squid to come to your party, if you could challenge the octopus in arm wrestling. What if you could talk to fish?
What if you could go invisible ? if you could sneak into your class room, late. If you could tip toe out of your room to eat the let over pizza MOM saved for your brother or sister, if you could slap the guy you hated all your life and couldn’t do anything about it , with him not even noticing, if you could help catch a gang of robbers, if you could stand right besides those people who talk against you , if you could scare the life out of your friends, or play hide and seek with your buddies and hide right in front of them, What if you could go invisible?
What if?, a question we all ask ourselves daily if not all the time. Which is natural I guess because we cannot have everything in this world and we certainly don’t. so it’s our nature to imagine ourselves having all those things which we don’t. Imagining ourselves enjoying our lives. Imagining ourselves to have a better time than we are having right now. A question we cant help it but to ask. And when we ask this question our imagination capabilities go wild. But this question is very important to us, it makes us know how it feels to be in somebody else’s shoes. It familiarizes us with the possibilities of the world. And in many cases it also reveals to us why we don’t have everything. And more than often we get the answer to the question as to why we don’t have everything but we pretend not to know the answer. And when we realize why we are not given everything our heart and soul sets finally into peace.
So go ahead ask yourself “What if “ and let your imagination run wild.
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The dark


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In the vicinity of my eyes, is the whole sky entirely filled with a billions of stars. At this moment what I can see is a dark surrounding with a moon at the side corner, an aero-plane and uncountable stars. My eyes are stuck to the top, making imaginary patterns on the sky. And watching the deadly races of the shining stars one after another. Understanding that with darkness all around, the moon always gives away light.

Happiness


happiness-wideGrab happiness whenever you feel like it;s somewhere near..

And keep the distressing stuff at arm’s length whenever you feel like it’s about tocommand over you..

And smile for everything, every single second you’re blessed with.

The happiest people don’t necessarily have the best of everything,
they just make the best of everything that comes their way.happiness_boy

Depressive Realism


Everybody gets depressed due to any reason, major or minor. People can be optimistic about some areas of life and exceedingly depressive about other things. But those who are truly depressed always see things in a negative light. A depressed individual is alwayshttps://spicedupcrap.files.wordpress.com/2013/05/dde05-depressed.jpg convinced the sky will fall on their head. Nothing can ever go right or ever will. Even happiness is a short-term joy, paving the way for further disappointment and the very emotion of happiness is rarely felt. For those suffering from clinical depression, life is very very bleak indeed. But can depression actually make a man a realist and hence, he can accept events and deal with emotions in a better way?

I read this theory somewhere, so sharing it over here.

The Theory of Depressive Realism

The concept of a realist look tinged with depression, is based on how there is a fine line between depression and reality. A realist is someone who sees life in a very straightforward manner. There is no cushioning or viewing of the world through rose-colored glasses. If a situation looks hopeless, to a realist it is hopeless. How does depression come into the picture? To understand this link, think of depression as a straight line and that there are 10 points on the line, which represent the rate or factor of depression that an individual has.

Factors of 0-5 accounts for the optimists. They are rarely depressed and they view the world in a hopeful and optimistic point of view. They look to the bright side of things and “there will always be a better tomorrow is their motto. Numbers 8, 9 and 10 are reserved for the severely depressed or clinically depressed. Their entire viewpoint is depressive and morbid to the extreme. What of numbers 5, 6 and 7? These are moderate or medium level depressed individuals. Such individuals are neither too hopeful nor too negative. They see things for what they are, neither black or white but gray and plain in sight. Here’s where depressive realism comes forth, as a way of thinking and behavior.

Optimists or people who are not depressed, see things in a “too good” or “everything will be all right” light. In short, they view the world through rose-colored glasses and that clouds their perception. Even in situations that can have no positive outcome, they hope for a miracle to occur. They also tend to inflate or exaggerate even their own contribution to a situation. Clinical depressives view the world in an excessively negative light. Nothing will ever succeed and they won’t try to change anything either, since they feel, “What is the use?” Their perception of the world is warped too.

But the medium level depressives view events in their true and accurate light. Thus their viewing of events, situations and emotions is more accurate. They understand things for what they really are, no better and no worse. Depressive realism allows the individual to take a more critical and realistic approach in everything he/she does, says and thinks. The individual is neither too convinced of his/hers own importance or self-worth. Neither is he/she suffering from low self-esteem. Rather he/she realizes exactly their own self-worth and insecurities and is confident of their own personality. They also view themselves in a much more realistic light, that is they do not overestimate their own abilities and strengths. They accept their flaws and positive strengths alike. Such individuals also respect and demand the truth behind any situation. They are also more open to accepting such truths, in contrast to optimists and nondepressed individuals, who tend to hope for the best and refuse to accept reality, even when the truth is glaringly obvious.

Depressive realism is regarded as the opposite of optimistic bias, where a person is too optimistic in thinking and emotions. Depressive people also believe that fate, coincidence or a divine power plays a greater role in their lives, than their own character and strength. This proposition was the result of studies conducted by psychologists, Alloy and Abramson in 1979, who put forward this theory with their light-bulb experiment. A group of nondepressed and depressed test subjects were placed individually in front of a panel with a yellow and a green bulb and a button. They were told to make the green light flash. The subjects would press the button in an attempt to make the bulb flash. But the reality was that the light flashed randomly and the button did not control it at all. The nondepressed subjects felt they controlled the bulb and did not consider this truth when the bulb failed to come on. The depressed subjects however felt that the bulb was not within their control and accepted it as a fact, that irrespective of whatever they do, the bulb will function on its own.

So is depressive realism real? Does this mean a pessimistic attitude is a healthy attitude? And what does this mean for positive thinking or optimism, is it just living in a state of denial, where one does not want to accept the realities of life? Psychology is still scratching its head over this theory and trying to conduct more research in this field. But one thing is for sure: too much of anything is not good and that holds true even for optimism. One shouldn’t be depressed or too hopeful at any time but rather, should keep sensible and practical expectations and behave in a likewise manner.

 

Depression doesn’t take the things right as patients think but by staying depressed, the conditions get more worse.

20 sec read : The Stone


A wise woman who was traveling in the mountains found a precious stone in a stream.

The Stone -spicedupcrapThe next day she met another traveler who was hungry, and the wise woman opened her bag to share her food.
The hungry traveler saw the precious stone and asked the woman to give it to him.
She did so without hesitation.

The traveler left, rejoicing in his good fortune. He knew the stone was worth enough to give him security for a lifetime.

But, a few days later, he came back to return the stone to the wise woman.
“I’ve been thinking,” he said. “I know how valuable this stone is, but I give it back in the hope that you can give me something even more precious.

“Teach me what you have within you that enabled you to give me this stone.”