11 Signs He’s Cheating on You


Had to hear Aaaa-lot after “10 sign’s She’s cheating on You” – Don’t tell me you didn’t read it.

After being called an anti-feminist, I had to take measures; So here It is for all you gorgeous out there 😉 Kudos.

IS HE A CHEATER?

As I’ve said earlier there is no such thing as a “perfect relationship”.Studies reveal that 50 to 60 % of men engage in affairs, hanky-panky, illicit meetings 😉 at one time or another during their relations.

Be the “Nancy Drew” in your relationship if you suspect your man of cheating.Had sneaking suspicions? Daunting Doubts? If you’ve watched any “Maury” at all, you’ve seen enough stories to know that the woman asking for a lie detector test already has more than enough information to suspect her guy of cheating/leading a double life/dressing as a clown.

Do you have to go to the extreme of hooking up your ‘honey bunny’ to a machine? Heck no! If you are a smart, capable and intelligent woman/girl, you already have all the tools you need to sniff out the truth.

All you have to do is open your eyes to the following signs:

  • Number 11

He has ‘Cheated’ Before :

I always say: “Once a cheater, always a cheater.” If he’s done it before, he’s definitely capable of doing it again. It has nothing to do with you, which is why you can’t say that he cheated on his previous lover because she didn’t keep him happy. Cheating is a self-serving act in which the cheater doesn’t take his significant other into consideration. If someone is upfront with you that he’s made mistakes in the past, maybe give them a chance — but make it a long probationary period before you let your guard down.

  • Number 10

 The hunted becomes the ‘Hunter’ :

This is a classic technique that: deflect guilt by accusing someone else. Some of the higher level of the man animal employs this technique. Why defend yourself if you can make someone else feel guilty? The trick is to not deviate from what the original discussion/argument/Battle-Royal was all about. He will employ all the tricks at his disposal to deflect you. Remaining focused is the key; no matter what he tries.

  • Number 9

Black becomes White :

A sure sign of a problem is when your man was a talker and then turns into a deaf-mute (or vice-versa). This is one of the very important signs to look for. Only the truly insane can carry on a double life. Normal people (even cheating men); find it difficult to lie on demand. So, instead of telling you about his day (like he used to do), he clams up for fear of revealing too much. The guy who never said anything suddenly starts giving up all sorts of information to “screen” his other activities. Beware any sudden or inexplicable shift in your man’s personality.

  • Number 8

He’s an Excellent Liar :

If you catch him in a lie, your trust will naturally be damaged. Don’t hold a grudge — forgiveness is a good thing. “You can forgive, but don’t forget”. If he consistently breaches your trust, it’s establishing a pattern of behavior that leads to cheating. Do yourself a favor: If he keeps lying, whether these lies are big or small, get out while you can and don’t let him talk his way back in.

  • Number 7

Your future looks Hazy :

He used to talk about future plans with you. He suddenly stops. Why? It’s because he doesn’t see you as part of HIS future. If you can’t answer, “where do you see us in 6 months?” it’s because he doesn’t see the “us” in six months.

  • Number 6

They call me Mr. Clean!

Guys are creatures of habit. Ladies, you don’t have to see the lipstick, or smell the perfume. Guys don’t like to change the soap that they normally use; they don’t like to use a different deodorant than the one they have been using since they first got chest hair. Guys don’t like to use to cologne if they didn’t before. So, if your guy changes his grooming routine, it’s because he’s trying to throw off the scent of any possible pursuit. No wonder men are referred as “dogsunfaithful ones” !!

  • Number 5

He’s Pulling Houdini’s :

If he’s disappearing, traveling, or unavailable to the point where you are starting to wonder, then he could be cheating. When ever you need him he vanishes from the face of the earth like literally. It’s time you activate your detective side because it’s tough to synch up schedules, especially in secret. 😉

  • Number 4

He is being less Passionate and Affectionate :

Even though relationships ebb and flow naturally, if you’re sensing that he’s drawing away from you, then there may be someone else. Emotional disconnect should be investigated regardless of whether it’s caused by cheating. There’s a problem if he’s not laughing or seeming as passionate as usual. It’s hard to spread love/passion between two people, so the person who used to have it will feel it slipping away if it’s being given to someone else.

  • Number 3

His cell phone habits have changed :

In a perfect world, we’d be open about sharing our correspondence with our significant others. Most of the time, we trust that we don’t have to worry about who is texting or calling them. But, if you notice that he is getting protective and/or nervous when he gets calls or texts, it may be cause for alarm. Suddenly gets a new phone with a password lock. Or perhaps now he keeps his cell phone in his pocket when in the past he would leave it on the counter. Beware.

  • Number 2

Decrease in Making-Love :

Unless he’s Superman, he can only makes so much love. So, if he’s getting it from another source, you might notice. It’s another woman — even if he’s not cheating — a decrease in making love signals serious issues in the relationship.

  • Number 1

If you’re reading this, it may already be too late…

The best judge of if your man is cheating is ‘YOU’. You can look for signs, but there are some men that are very clever. Like a ninja, they leave no trace. You have to trust your judgment when dealing with anyone, even someone you care about. A relationship between two adults should be based on trust. If you can’t trust your man, the relationship is dead; it just hasn’t been buried yet. If you are looking for signs, it’s because you already know but want some confirmation.
*Unless, of course, you’re the crazy, jealous girlfriend type and no matter what, you think your man is cheating on you. In that case, you need therapy sweet heart.*

Disclaimer :  Apply On Your “OWN RISK”

When you get suspicious that your significant other is cheating, be careful not to appear to be paranoid. You have to walk a fine line — you don’t want to make false accusations.

So, while I shared this list of cheating red flags, I concede that it’s a tricky situation. It’s hard to be sure if someone’s cheating, but protect yourself: Be vigilant, and pay attention to your mind and spirit within the relationship. But, at the same time, be careful not to let anxiety lead the way because unnecessary paranoia will just drive your lover away.

If you invade his privacy, this may ruin the relationship, especially if it turns out he wasn’t cheating because it’ll prove to him that you don’t trust him at all.

And if it’s confirmed he is cheating on you – then stay tuned because coming up next is : “How to Get Over a Cheating Boyfriend” . I know I can be cruel at times 😉

Give out your comments, any point you think I missed, all the hate speech to be directed only to -> me. In the comment section below 😉

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Kissenger: virtual lips for long-distance lovers


This photograph taken on July 20, 2012 shows professor Hooman Samani, Research Fellow at the Interactive and Digital Media Institute National University of Singapore, displaying the “Kissenger”. Finding it hard to keep up the passion in a long-distance relationship? Help might be on the way. A robotics professor in Singapore has invented a gadget equipped with motion-sensitive electronic “lips” that allow amorous but absent couples to exchange long-distance smooches via the Internet.

SINGAPORE: Finding it hard to keep up the passion in a long-distance relationship? Help might be on the way.

A robotics professor in Singapore has invented a gadget equipped with motion-sensitive electronic “lips” that allow amorous but absent couples to exchange long-distance smooches via the Internet.

Shaped like a small head with oversize silicone lips, the “Kissenger” – short for Kiss Messenger – was unveiled in June at a scientific conference in Britain and is still being refined for commercial launch.

“It can be used between humans to improve their communication,” its creator Hooman Samani told AFP.

Couples just have to connect the devices to computers via USB cables, link up online and start kissing the silicone material to trigger sensors that move the gadget on the other side.

They can stare at each other on screen while exchanging kisses.

“The main issue is to transmit the force and pressure, and also the shape of the lip,” Samani said.

The “special silicone material” chosen for the lips offers “the best sensation and feeling”, said the scientist, who has personally tested the device.

But the Kissenger is not yet ready for the market despite “a lot of offers”from interested parties because there are “ethical issues” that need to be

resolved on top of the technical aspects, he said.

“Kissing is very intimate so in order to have a product in market which is going to deal with this sensitive issue we have to do proper studies and investigation on the social point of view, cultural point of view,” he said.

The device is still being refined at a laboratory jointly set up by the National University of Singapore (NUS) and Keio University of Japan.

Samani calls his field of study “lovotics” – research into the relationship between robots and humans – and the Kissenger is just one of several devices being developed by his team.

Do you need one too ? :p

A marriage does not just come down to ‘love’ or ‘arranged’


The success rate of marriage doesn’t depend upon whether it was arranged or not but rather on how two people understand each other.

Before I begin, I wish to clarify something. I find the terminology chosen by several authors in proving ‘Arranged Marriages to be better” is beyond irksome; I am referring to the distinction made between ‘arranged’ and ‘love’ marriage. The reason being that this distinction manages to associate many negative connotations to a ‘non-arranged’ form of union.

I am often left bewildered. How can a marriage of any kind be without love? Surely that is a key component in a successful marriage. I suggest that we correct our terms of reference. As such, I will use the terms ‘traditional’ and ‘non-traditional’ to substitute for ‘arranged’ and ‘love,’ respectively.

From the very start ‘young girls’ are to remain submissive and to spinelessly accept that being judged in the comfort of their own homes is a ‘rite of passage’ of some kind. This is the crux of the issue. Surely, we should promote an individual’s active participation in the matter of marriage, or shouldn’t we not?

It is after all one of the biggest decisions of their life, no?

Marriage is a gamble regardless of how it happens to come about. It is destiny, it is fate. How we make it work is down to how we are raised and educated. Respect and equality are values that children must be instilled with anyway. Life is full of hurdles and accepting defeat when faced with marital disputes would be plain ridiculous. Reacting rationally to such situation is an ability that we should teach our children, to prepare them for any kind of problem not just marital.

The success rate of marriage doesn’t depend upon whether it was arranged or not but rather on how two people understand each other; how their perceptions differ or concur with each other; how patient or impatient are the couples in slippery situations.

To some authors arranged marriages are well-thought out, considered and then arranged on the contrary People who usually fall in love are bound to be blinded by passion that love ignites in you. But in reality this might not be the case if we are educated to respect the sanctity of marriage as a union to begin with.

We must realise that this is probably the biggest decision of one’s life and not something to be embarked upon on a whim. Those ‘blinded by passion’ are clearly not in love but are merely infatuated. Yet, we would not know the difference between the two because we, as a society, are taught to fear the very notion of ‘love’. Even uttering the word in a conversation is treated with astounding negativity.

Remember that love doesn’t automatically warrant ‘bahayai’ (indecency) or ‘baygairati’ (vulgarity). It is a natural phenomenon. Do not fear it, embrace it. After all, it is the ultimate aim of traditional marriages that you so solemnly support, is it not?

In an ideal society all parents are well intention-ed as you would like to believe. But even if they are, this is beside the point. Parents are not the ones getting married, are they now? Parents must encourage children to grow up to make their own decisions in life, and this goes for career choices too and many other facets of their children’s lives.

It seems to me that some of us have found an exit strategy by pinning down the blame over our parents shoulders in case our marriage fails; definitely easier then owning up to your own shortcomings for sure. Even in an ‘arranged’ affair of marriage, parents must encourage their child to engage in the decision-making process and to actively consider the outcomes themselves.

Ultimately, everyone is entitled to their own opinion and in no way do I intend to berate either form of union. We often say everything is down to fate. However, there is only so much that is predetermined. We must differentiate right from wrong and blind traditions from religion.

I am not suggesting that one form of marital arrangement trumps the other. I merely wish to convey that failure of one does not make the other better or vice versa. Regardless of the form of union, whether love or arranged, we must concentrate on preventing their breakdown by taking the matter of marriage seriously from the very start when decisions are made.

“In an arranged marriage all your relatives and so called well wishers push you into a well,however in a love marriage you willingly jump into one.end result is same”